So it’s down to the last few hours of 2010 and I can say firmly that I will NEVER look back on it! Time to ‘cowgirl up’ and knock back the Gin with disregard to the slow painful burn. I won’t be bitter and spiteful about it; I will just smile and dismiss it as one of the worst ever. What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger right?
The not so good: I have had to be tough, and by tough I mean REALLY thick skinned tough this year. Lupus brought the challenges that kicked my ass. Not only did it kick my ass, it literally wiped the floor with me. It put me at 100 lbs, it put me in the hospital, it left me dazed, confused and learning how to be the new Julie without taking away too much of the old Julie. It took precious time away from my family, daughters and friends that I can never get back. Lupus has taken a lot from me but… AS LONG AS MY HEART IS STILL BEATING IT HASN’T TAKEN EVERYTHING! So I will raise my glass tonight and say screw you Lupus. So far, with God on my side, I win.
The good: I have never appreciated life more than I do right now. I never really realized how fragile we all are and how fragile life is until I was in danger of losing mine. Maybe that’s the lesson out of this diagnosis. We can be perfectly fine one day and dealing with a living hell overnight. Maybe we need to be shocked into realizing the beauty that is all around us that we take for granted. We are here for such a short time and the things that consume our time aren’t even things that will help us in the end. Everyone seems so concerned about the size of their home, the size of their bank account, the luxury vehicles they drive and the designer clothes they wear. It’s like everyone is living the photo shopped life and making themselves believe it is real. Like busy little ants, scurrying around building their material empires. In the end, none of it will matter; it will be the sweet things we said or did that will become our legacy.
I started out saying “why me?” this spring and now going into 2011 I am saying “why not me”? I can take this because I am me. I have gained new strength and perspective and for that I truly am thankful. I have found out who really matters, who never will, who my true friends are and made new friends along the way. I have learned that unless you love the one you’re with you are not living, just existing. I feel so sorry for all of the people out there that just exist. I choose living!
Cheers and bring on a Happy NEW Year!
Julie